Monday, October 19, 2015

Tired of me yet?

October 1st marked my second full year as a published author.

I've learned a lot about myself through this process and I thought I'd share some of my discoveries. Maybe you've already figured this stuff out. If so...nod along with me.

Here are the top 5 things I've figured out as a writer in the last two years.

1. Online friends are just as important as people you can drive to and touch. 
I thought I was weird through High School. I figured there were just a few people who would be my friends in college. Then I started writing romance and I realized, there are a lot of us out there in the world and even if I can't drive down the street and have coffee with them, doesn't make them any less of a friend.

If they were to ever try and tell me to stop drinking coffee...well then I would just mute them on FB.

2. Diets and edits should never be attempted simultaneously. 
Unless you really do have enough bail/lawyer money to deal with the fallout, do not attempt such things. I suppose you could work on murdering characters, but without chocolate, I don't trust myself to not strangle the man driving the ice cream truck relentlessly around my neighborhood.

Edits are the most stressful part of the process for me, and I have learned (as has hubby) that doing this without chocolate cake and wine creates a world no one wants to live in.

3. Offices come in all shapes, sizes, and flavors.
I tried to write in a lot of different areas around my home and outside of it. I don't have a dedicated home office, and my HOA would probably frown at me constructing the Gothic cathedral I'd like to in my back yard. So I either write on my couch, in a chair, or when I can't stand the sight of the laundry any longer, I venture out with my ear buds and buy a coffee or small meal to keep me going.

Turns out I write best when I park in the spot third from the back at Panera and park my ass in the two seater booth next to the outlet. I also write better when they DON'T RUN OUT OF HAZELNUT COFFEE! *cough* excuse me.

But yeah. Writing in a proper office, isn't always necessary, or even the best option.

4. Social media was created by evil trolls who suck the productivity out of my body with a straw. 
I'm freaking addicted to social media. Probably because of point #1 up above. I have met with some amazing people, and there are some of you who I bother  talk with everyday. It's hard for me to turn off the notifications because there have been some OMG moments that everyone has helped me with. I want to be able to be there for everyone else too. Unfortunately the notification sounds the same if we are talking about book titles or stripping dinosaurs.

And we all know the stripping dinosaurs are way more important.

5. I can do way more than I give myself credit for.
When I was thinking of getting involved in writing, I did what we all do when we go after our dreams. I told myself I wasn't good enough. I told myself I was years away from being able to get into the writing game.

I saw a quote on pinterest one day. It said..."I can and I will. Watch me."

I started doing what I told myself I wasn't good enough to try. And you know what?

I did it.

Now when I get ready to start a new book, or when someone approaches me for a project, it's just a little easier to quiet that voice.

I'm only 2 years into this new adventure. But good things are coming. Just you watch.


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  1. Ahem. Why is this the first time I'm seeing the dino stripper?!?

    1. I was saving it for a special occasion! On the bright side, it gets better each time you replay it.